Yeah, I know some of y’all are rolling your eyes at the title...and for those of you who are saying the doctor should take her own medicine, go and sit down jo!
First I’ll start with the absolute no no’s
LEADING A MAN INTO THINKING YOU ARE NEEDY AND INSECURE
Girls are expected to expect the guy to pay on first dates. There’s no reason why it shouldn’t be expected but let me let you into a little secret boys, we know that you appreciate girls who lean on you because it makes you feel stronger and such so we accidentally show this in little things such as tripping on the stairs so you can support us, acting helpless so you can drop us off at home or call us a cab, depending on how well the date has gone. Or acting totally clueless around our cars when we had just gone under them to change the tires one hour before the date. WE KNOW YOU LIKE TO FEEL SMARTER, SO WE ACCOMMODATE Y’ALL…lol but ladies, hold up, im thinking Guys don’t buy that any more, they accommodate it for a while, then start thinking they need to get outta there before you need help feeding yourself during the date, ok, just playing but really guys don’t buy the helpless maiden act any more, act like the strong woman you are, you’ll be better for it.
TALKING ABOUT YOUR EXBOYFRIEND IN DEROGATORY TERMS
Now, I don’t even think I need to explain why this is so wrong! Especially when you just got out of a relationship that didn’t go so well, the temptation is great to start mouthing off on how greatly you got hurt and how much of an ass wipe you think your exboyfriend is but CAUTION..ladies, while you are spouting off on your bitterness, take a minute to regard your dates thoughtful sympathetic look, sometimes, he might not be sympathizing with you, he might be pitying the poor sap who got out of your cluthes cos right there you seem like a bitter hag, which is not attractive at all and just suppose your relationship with him does not work out? What if he is one of those far thinkers thinking is this how she’ll bad mouth me in the future? God forbid! So ladies when you are asked about past relationships? Take a deep breath, wait ten seconds, swallow that bile, smile and then speak, you’ll find that it works wonders!
RUNNING OTHER WOMEN DOWN
Yes, we aren’t denying it, it’s in our genes. Sometimes we see that girl rocking those shoes or handbag and we like or have a girl crush immediately but some of us dey beef unnecessarily! Why does it hurt a fellow sister when another sister is looking good? That’s something you swallow when on a date unless you want to drive that guy far far away! And just in case the girl isn’t looking good like in my case when I see a chick struggling with blush looking like some “mammy water” up in the house, I usually pass a comment to myself, not out loud tho’ just loud enough so I can hear, usually makes guys think im a lil loco but ill rather look loco than seem binshy…lol
TOO MUCH PHYSICAL CONTACT
When on a first date or a second or third with a guy you really like, if you have plans on moving the relationship to a level beyond just dates, be careful with the physical contact, not that there shouldn't be physical contact, you know those brush of fingers and such that lead to goosebumps, i know i get them, but the physical contact should not send the wrong signals
TARGETING A MAN'S SEXUAL SIDE FIRST
This is almost like the rule beforehand, but i just thought this should be stressed differently, i know we all like to look hot on first dates, but not too hot so we don't tend to burn down the guy especially if we really like him, the messages we send on the first couple of dates, decide how the rest of the relationship will go so you want to watch what you wear, you can look modest and still look sexy ok?
and finally, this i think is the most important, wait for it...
NOT KNOWING HOW TO MEASURE A GUYS RELATIONSHIP QUOTIENT
GIRLS, THIS IS A SECRET GUYS DONT WANT US TO KNOW, MOST GUYS ARE NOT INTERESTED IN LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS..it's true! so size up your guy, what category does he fall into?
FLING
He just wants you for the meantime, he's bored and in need of a little excitement. listen to him, he'll drop some clues when he's speaking. guys are known to jabo, we are just seeing too many stars to get these clues..
ONE NIGHTER
WE ALL KNOW WHAT THIS GUYS AFTER, SO WATCH OUT GIRLS, HE'LL BE GONE IN THE MORNING!
BED AND BREAKFAST
an upgrade on the one nighter, he'll feed you and then BE GONE IN THE MORNING!
RINGS AND ROSES
now, i personally like to call this roses and romance cos of my whole mbrugh...shudder on the rings thing, can't explain it, but the kind of guy who will woo you, make you swoon and be there to catch you when you fall for him instead of allowing you hit the floor ...YAKATA! will be obvious if you just shine your eyes well well, dont be blown away by his accent, or the fact he drives a jaguar...tho' that's cool too, yea really cool, what was i saying...yea..measure a guy's relationship quotient if you've decided he'll be the man of your dreams, then re evaluate, go back to the books and find out...figure out, if you've been fleeced .
.until i come with the tid bits on how to keep him once you've got him ladies dont forget to ginger your swagger or swagger your ginger whichever one suits your fancy...lol
